While the movement of abstinence education has wonderful intentions have you ever stopped to think that this message could be destroying marriages?
Abstinence education gives instruction on an outward action of purity until a person is married but what about afterwards? There are unfortunate examples of those who have "saved themselves" for marriage but made huge mistakes once they tied the knot. Abstinence education is incomplete. God designed sex. It a beautiful thing in the right place.
Consider how the incomplete message of abstinence can be damaging to a marriage:
1. Abstinence education can cause sex to be viewed as a negative thing. A physical relationship inside of marriage is a beautiful invention of God that creates an intimate bond between a couple. Unfortunately there has been an improper emphasis on this physical act being done at the wrong time or with the wrong person that the entire thing is perceived as something dirty or bad. This perception can create an unhealthy sexual relationship between a husband and wife once they are married.
2. By limiting the message to "waiting," young adults can perceive marriage as the escape to sexual temptation. Sometimes students or unmarried Christians begin to the think that marriage, rather than self-control is the answer to impurity. While marriage provides a holy context for sexual behavior, it doesn't remove the temptation of impurity. Teens or young adults need to be taught that discipline in purity is something that needs to be developed now. The discipline of saying "no" needs to follow them into marriage, not end when they say, "I do."
Don't get me wrong. I am not saying that we should encourage kids to engage in intercourse before marriage. On the contrary. I believe that the message of abstinence should be accompanied with the deeper truth of purity. God wants our hearts, souls, mind and body to be pure before him. This is the path to a healthy relationship with Him. And a successful marriage with a future spouse.
Have you ever seen abstinence education taught in an incomplete way? Do you think it's time to teach a deeper message?
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